We have heard comments expressed by some of our men that suggest, “we are developing a spirit of retaliation in our homes” or “we don’t know how to interact with our sons.” Many of our women have disqualified themselves from any role outside of domestic duties because of the label “pencil break” that they wear (meaning they are uneducated) and lament the lack of interaction between their husbands and children. Our engagement with the RSIPF and NGO’s reveals how such comments are indicative of the vulnerability of families for destructive behaviours to manifest in their homes and village life.
This is the cultural and social context that led us to introduce the successful ‘Father & Son’ event run by The Salvation Army in PNG to the Solomon Islands District. While there is a lot of work being done in the equality space with women, the need for such an event to change the thinking of men is very evident. I firmly believe that ‘belief drives behavior’ so the Territorial theme for this year’s ‘Father & Son Weekend’ seemed pertinent for our context — ”Rise Up! Men of Godly Character.” More than anything, Solomon Islands families need men who don’t just profess faith in God but whose character reflects the heart of God!
Each teaching session commenced with a fun activity to further engage the fathers and sons with each other and the theme for the weekend. The first was a game of ‘Celebrity Heads’ to challenge the guys, with the help of the audience, to guess which biblical father and son they had displayed on their head. The second involved an enactment of the rite of passage for young men of shaving. It was hilarious watching the brave dadi’s allow their pikinini to shave their faces, albeit with a plastic knife. On the Saturday evening, the Closing Session featured some of the Honiara Corps youth who are a part of a local band they call the “Holy Cross Boys.” Their style of music is a blend of country rock and gospel with a Bon Jovi vibe (especially when Solomon is singing). These talented young men added a pleasing musical contrast to Friday night’s featured band that was equally enjoyed by the congregation. The Territorial Commander concluded the final session with a call to commitment that invited the men and boys to sign the following declaration:
“In the presence of God who loves me, who has called me, and who has promised to always be with me, I commit my life by God’s grace, to be a Man of Godly Character in my family, my village and my country. I choose today, and by God’s help to be the Man of Godly Character that He has called me to be.”
Our first Father & Son Weekend was a great success with God speaking so powerfully into the lives of those who attended and affirming His mission in the Solomon Islands. We would like to extend our sincere appreciation to our guest leaders Colonels Kelvin & Julie Alley, the RSIPF Band, the Holy Cross Boys, the ladies of our SAES team and Martin Wynne for contributing to the success of this weekend.